Just as an aside, I have to say I will be responding to articles as and when I find them. But my main source of great butthurt parent-type articles – and inspiration for this blog – has let me down, so I’m finding it difficult to locate such articles. I’m working on it, I do like a good response piece.
Today I’m doing a half response/half screenshots post. I am responding to comments made on a lady’s Facebook page. To make it clear, I have nothing against this lady. She made a very short, humorous, very inoffensive video highlighting some differences between parenting a dog and parenting human kids. She loves her dog, she loves her kid, she didn’t include anything insulting or condescending, and she even called for peace in the comments. Ironically, the people CAUSING the unrest were mainly parents of humans. They thought they were “calling out” all the many butthurt pet parents, and I trawled those comments at length and found three, literally just THREE people who had anything negative to say. Two were OTT, one was reasonable and just said she disagreed.
Link to the short video in question, and details about her Facebook page.
I’d like to devote a blog to the insane (mainly mothers) who just used this as an opportunity to hate, rant, gloat and talk shit about pets, animals and their owners…
So lets get into this (for reference, I’ll be saying “pets” instead of just dogs, because they don’t JUST mean one type of pet);
Well M, you know who would take a bullet for you? YOUR DOG! I’m sure you don’t even realise it, perhaps you don’t even care. But that’s how loyal and loving dogs are. I don’t think you deserve that loyalty and love. Your kid won’t be taking any bullets for you!
L drones on and on about the differences here… thank you Cap’n Obvious, I’m sure everyone who compares parenting a kid means they REALLY think it’s the same and needed that information. What a fucking waste of time those TWO comments were. However, I have to say that M knocks it out of the park by pointing out that L is dismissing adoptive parents. I imagine that shame L perfectly as she slunk away and didn’t respond. Oh and fuck off with your “great complexity”… your the mum, your spawn is the kid. What’s complex about it?
A can go suck a bag of dicks! She’d turn away a sick animal “immediately”! Taking the time to love a pet will psychologically damage her kid? Jesus fucking Christ woman, what do you think getting rid of the kid’s beloved dog for no apparent reason, or refusing to help a sick animal would do to them? Most children like or love animals, who are more delicate and vulnerable than them, it’s how a lot of kids learn empathy and love. They would feel it if you treated an animal so badly. She’s saying it’s better to just get the animal put to sleep, even if it can be treated, because fuck taking care of an animal! Sounds like her poor ex was a decent person, probably left her because she’s an uncaring, callous bitch! Then she talks about some fucked up friend of hers who feels aggrieved because her family dogs were “treated better” growing up. Well, I’m pretty sure those were neglectful parents, not amazing parents who happened to also love their animals. There’s so much wrong in this comment that it pains me. Mine was the laugh emoji, the rest were likes, I’m sorry to say!
Yes, this is the same L as above. Getting all in her feelings again! Apparently she loved her cat… but left him with an abusive person. Yeah, you didn’t love that cat! I don’t care where I went, I would NEVER leave my animal with an abusive human. She has a “HUGE PROBLEM” wah wah wah, about how we treat animals – what, with respect and kindness? Well I can see how you wouldn’t like that. Basically, the rest of that comment is pretty much “if you’re not 100% vegan, you don’t get to say you love your pet!” Kiss my vegetarian arse, bitch.
Next to comments are ALSO L. She MADE. A. CHILD. So spin on it, adoptive parents! Oh and “if you don’t have kids, you can’t have an opinion”. Of course, has to throw that in.
And L again – very interesting use of words there. “Inferior”. Not that she loves her kid more, or that her kid is her number one priority… the cat is INFERIOR to her son. I just don’t understand how you’d even think of that word.
Okay okay everyone, H is here to put an end to all this with some wise words; aaaand, then she turned into a psycho mum! She hears a dog barking when pushing her kid, and suddenly imagining turning into a ninja, protecting all three kids at once. From what, I’m not sure, but never mind, coz it makes a good story and she gets to pretend to be a fierce mama bear in action. But GUYS, there was an instinctual SHIFT in her. It’s primal and you just won’t get it if you don’t know the joy of motherhood.
As for her mad ramblings about “ghosting”, okay lady, did you make ANY attempt to relate to them on their level instead of going on about the baby the entire time when you saw them? Did you ask about their lives and REALLY actually take an interest in their replies? Did you ever try to see them without the baby? They came by to see you and liked your baby, but how much interest do you expect young, childfree people to take? What did you want from them? YOU had the kid, not them. YOU changed, not them. If they ALL drifted off from you, who is the common denominator here? Look in the mirror!
But anyway, that’s off the subject, but something I want to go into another time.
The reply says it all! V’s little story here is completely irrelevant!
J… WHAT COMMENTS? I’m serious. Where are they all? I saw three negative comments! You wanted there to be loads, so you could get on your high horse. Thanks A, nobody realised that. J, that’s BRAND. NEW. INFORMATION!!!!
You. Parents. Drive. Me. Insane. The love is different? Really? I’m honestly learning so much. Thank God parents are here to tell me all this!
Oh darling!! You’ve never had and loved a pet have you? You’ll never know until you have a pet.
It IS gold! All the butthurt parents, so triggered by THREE negative comments that they have to spam a comment section with absolute bullshit. Oh and K? Bitch? If I ever know that someone “tosses” their dog outside just because it’s whining at night then I will be calling their local animal welfare officers faster than they can say ANIMAL ABUSE!
Soooo, a foster parent isn’t a parent? They don’t always raise their kids for 18+ years, and the damage has usually already been done that will require them lifelong therapy. Interesting theory you have there. And yes, if we feel we’re a parent to our pet, we’re a parent to our pet. As for your last point – we don’t know what love is until we have a kid… you’re damn right we act offended, because we are; you are not only putting down our love for our pets, but also our parents, grandparents, significant others and whoever else may be dear to us in our lives. Some people are not okay with jumped up parents doing that!!
Good grief woman, do you know how you come across? INSANE! And do you think us pet parents don’t do that? Sometimes I look at my cat and she’s so adorable and innocent and vulnerable that I just want to protect her forever (which I will) and I want to cry. She doesn’t even have a voice, I have to protect her for her entire life, she will always be my baby! I’m only admitting this here – in reply to your weirdness. Bleating about it proudly makes you seem very strange. Your kid even thinks so.
But yeah, we do understand sweetie. Stop it with the patronising bullshit.
Crazy mamas unite! R understands. Her husband thinks she’s batshit, but she still bawls her eyes out for no reason. She can only do that over the being that SHE created of course, never over a mere animal. (says a lot).
Imma stand up for this one, coz F you, T! Ooh, throws a rock – an inanimate object with no life, feelings, emotions or needs – in there. Is that supposed to be funny? Clever? Because it’s neither. Just saying. And “parasite”? Oh sweetie pie, no!! The parasite is the foetus feeding off the mother’s body. How the hell can you say a living, breathing animal who did not come out of my body is a “parasite”! Do you understand what a “host” is in this context? T, you are painfully uneducated. The irony in this comment is magnificent!
It’s sooooo worth it you guys! I had nothing of any intelligence to contribute to this thread, but I just had to say something so you all know I’m a MUMMY, and it’s SO WORTH the workload. Mummies unite amirite?
Oh please save me from this next level of butthurt!! Calling taking a pet home from a shelter “adoption” or “fostering” is “wrong” and her kids may feel some type of way when they’re older and see that it’s used for animals as well as human kids!?? You can’t make this shit up. I also can’t believe someone approved this crazy snowflake for adoption! She actually CRINGES at the thought of her kids knowing the same words are used for animals finding loving homes. Well sweetheart, lets hope they’re normal people unlike you, and they’ll be just fine. Fucking hell…
Okay, what the fuck kind of feral brats is L raising? I dearly hope I never come into contact with them!!
“Maybe”? Fucking MAYBE?? And way to do a huge injustice to the many, many people who have had kids and are still devastated (K, you can’t fucking spell) at losing a dear pet. Not to mention the children. For them, a lot of the time it’s their first experience of death, and is very upsetting to them. Some more than others if they had a very strong bond. And no, you DON’T always “buy another one”. Even if eventually you do (hopefully you adopt, not BUY), how is that any different to having another child after one died? You’re not replacing the lost child, and pet parents are not replacing the lost pet, but both will fill a void. And pets don’t have spirits? What…? What the…?? Just go away K, your comment was shit!
I have an infertile bitch at work, yeah it’s a shame, but whatever…. anyway, she tries to talk to me on my level and say her cat is like my kid, what a fucking IDIOT, come on everyone, laugh at the infertile woman. What a douche!!!
Well you wouldn’t have liked my mum and me then when I was growing up, our two cats were totally my brothers. I’m not angry, I just pity your closed mindedness and petty peeves! Who the hell cares what people call their animals in their own households?
Just for a laugh, I Googled “my pet is my child, disorder”. Below is the full first page of results. M, you’re talking crap.
1/ Nobody cares, 2/ Nobody said your pets were the same as your kid, but we still expect you to act parent-like to them, feed them, clean up their poo and give them love, 3/ NOBODY attacked the OP!
And now we’re going WAY off the beaten track with a mama getting way too triggered by pet parents jokingly getting cards for each other “from the cat/dog/whatever”. Never mind that it’s cute, or just a laugh, it’s TRIGGERING to parents!
M, I honestly don’t think that any sane infertile woman is sitting there crying because a pet parent sent their partner a card “from the dog”. In fact, they are more likely to be crying because mothers of human kids are gushing about motherhood all over social media, yet nobody tells you to stop doing that…
Oh S, have your damn holiday! You know who doesn’t care? MY mum! Who has put in a lot more years of motherhood than your newbie ass has. (it’s an educated guess luv).
D is the infertile lady who has dogs, they’re her babies. It’s something you hear a lot, and it’s a shame they can’t have the babies they long for – but their animals mean everything to them. It would be absolutely horrible to verbally attack D wouldn’t it…?
Not according to P! I don’t recall the comment that D was upset about, but P is firmly defending it. I find it especially interesting that she throws “adopt a human” in there. Firstly, fuck off! Adopting an animal is a beautiful thing to do, and it’s the path she chose. Secondly, she hasn’t attacked anyone, AT ALL! Thirdly, don’t call her “sweetie” when you’re pointing out that she needs counselling, you come across like a vile bitch. The reason I find the “adopt” part so interesting is that if someone was spending thousands on IVF to have a baby and someone said “why don’t you adopt?”, she’d no doubt be the first one in there shouting about how it’s none of their business and some people just want to experience pregnancy etc. But when it’s adopt a human vs adopt a do… different story! smh
Oh man, this is a new one on me!! This is a thing? I knew SAHM vs working mums was a thing, but not this. Good grief.
If they don’t have a human child, to them it was like losing a child. Because their animal was their child. That’s what they mean. Don’t get so butthurt about it!!!
Now listen… K is here to lay down the rules. You WILL NOT celebrate Mothers or Fathers Day because you didn’t birth those animals. Also, adoptive parents… fuck you, you didn’t squeeze your kids out of your uterus, in fact you’re not even technically parents, so you don’t get to celebrate either. *laugh emojis
Why? You do it once a fortnight, they do it like once a year!
Yes, J, thank you!! Nobody should be so cruel to their dog. Terrible!
Hahahaha! J’s kid is destined to be the next Obama. Or Trump. Or perhaps Hitler. But he or she is going to GOVERN A NATION! Not end up on welfare, no, not that. J’s kid is special, it’s just obvious.
At least this J has included adoptive parents. That’s a bonus. And she’s giving us permission to love our pets – J is really a decent person, that’s really kind! It’s kinda cute how she thinks her one kid is going to shape the world. lol
Y’know what though? No child will come before MY pet. I’d save her over some random child and I’m not even sorry.
Ugh, I fucking hate “it’s an animal”, yeah and so are we. What’s your point? This one clearly thinks little of her poor cats. They “shit in a box”, is that all she has to say about the poor things? I doubt any human this pos raises will be a good anything! And yeah I’ve been around a child – I wouldn’t recommend it! Cats though… 🙂
You “will easily get rid of a pet”… “bye dog”? You are a piece of excrement, and I really hope you have no animals!!!!
Well that was fucking stupid!!! And you think people calling dogs their kids is a mess!?? Lady, sit the fuck down!
“You poor thing having to bottle feed kittens”, GO. FUCK. YOURSELF. WITH. A CACTUS!!!! You have ZERO idea what it’s like to raise kittens who have no mummy cat, to take the place of the mummy, help them poo and wee, see that they survive if they have health problems, especially if they’ve been dumped in a box in the curb. Ever found a box of babies dumped in a box somewhere cold and wet? Starving hungry, with no mother, people walking past and not giving a shit? NO?? Well go get intimate with that cactus then! That should shut you up!
The next few are replies to the one out of three comments disagreeing. And it was the sanest (if that’s a word) of the three as well. The mamas piled on and bullied the ever living shit out of her! Pack of bitches!
Did you drop out of school to have the first one or two? You write “you are”, and still end up using “your” instead of you’re. Fuck off, YOU’RE illiterate. Yes, I’m a Grammar Nazi, but she deserves it! (And no, I’m not perfect myself).
If I could find K, I would want to drop kick her into next week. I hope somebody does. This vile cow thinks that she can leave a dog on a curb, raise it like shit, not feed it ad ignore it because it’s a FUCKING DOG LADY… oh no, she means a FUCKING DOG, LADY and NO ONE WILL CARE!!!! Oh you piece of shit on the bottom of my shoe, we are not all like you, many of us DO care about animal abuse. And believe me, some people, when they see it happening, do not go easy on the abuser. Just a FYI if you’re planning on abusing an animal anytime soon. BITCH!!!! I’m so gutted this thing spawned and is raising kids with it’s DNA!!
Yeah well, C, these are some of the most idiotic comments I’ve seen in a while. Oookay, you shove your cat and dog outside and forget about them, well that’s NEGLECT, so well done. If you can walk out the door after dumping them somewhere (and no Vet I know would take an animal like that who isn’t ill) then you’re scum! Cats don’t “sit in kennels”, and dogs should be part of the family!
Now, for your precious BAYBEEES!
1/ You knew that going in, so did pet parents, that’s why we didn’t have babies. And what is the relevance of that point anyway? 2/ Girl your bat! ?? I’m sorry, I don’t speak unintelligible slang! 3/ If you shove your cat or dogs in a cupboard when they’re upset, I’m just hoping someone calls animal control on you very soon! And if you think it’s okay to do to animals, why DON’T you do the same with your sprogs?
That’s good, I can’t fault you on that. Thank you for caring for sick puppies. However, you end this with saying that work was “emotionally easier”. I honestly don’t get how? The damage to your body, coz that is some list you give, is not worth the hassle for a human kid as far as I’m concerned.
You can tell the REALLY butthurt ones because they’ll either bring YOUR death or your pet’s death into it. Classy Liz, very classy! Enjoy your empty nest when your kid buggers off and rarely bothers with you.
Oh just shove your human kid out there. I mean, if it’s good enough for your dog, it’s good enough for your kid! Sorry but seriously, you’re a shit dog owner if you “need a break” and shove the poor thing outside.
You sound like you’re not coping, “all the stress and worry and responsibility”, I think you’re regretting parenthood. Oh… sorry, is that rude and totally inaccurate? Well sweetie, so is saying that anyone who disagrees with the OPs video – all three people who did – just want kids of their own! So do me a favour, ALL you butthurt, boring, ranting, raging, IDIOT parents;
Bitchy Non-Mum signing off, for now…